Let’s face it: life changes can be difficult on a personal level, but they can be difficult on a relationship as well. As we discussed on Monday, allowing time for the transition can be one really helpful strategy, but a problem like transitions should be attacked from as many angles as possible, so let’s look at some other strategies.
1. Be Vulnerable with Your Partner
Among a number of excellent suggestions in this Huffington Post article by a woman who lost most of her eyesight was a reminder to allow yourself to be vulnerable during the transition. If you are able to open up to your partner about the emotions you are experiencing, and to encourage him to do the same, it can help you build an “us against the world” mentality instead of a “me against my partner” mentality.
Source: natcom.org
2. Make Your Expectations as Realistic as Possible
In this research compilation about the marital changes that having a baby causes, one important factor for relationship satisfaction after the birth of a child is whether both parents had realistic expectations. Although this article is specific to becoming a parent, the principle applies to other transitions as well. The more realistic both of you are about what the transition will entail, the better you will be able to deal with the transition.
Source: mommyshorts.com
3. Let Go of Your Pre-transition Life
As this article about how to deal with changes points out, it is important to let go of the past when you transition. The more you fight against the change, the higher your stress level will be, and the more your relationship will be affected. This is especially true when you perceive your partner’s actions to be the cause of the transition. Holding onto the past can cause you to resent your partner for their part in causing the transition and prevent you from enjoying any good things that the transition may be bringing your way.
Source: fallingintowonderland.wordpress.com
I’ve pulled out just a few of the strategies for dealing with change, but if you want more, dive into some of the articles above; there are some really good strategies there! Check back in on Friday to hear about how I am working through my personal transitions right now: new job, new home, new baby on the way. Whew!
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