I am blessed with having a wonderful husband. As we talked about last week, though, everyone is human. Even my husband. And, since I’m human too, I sometimes fall into the trap of overanalyzing his flaws and making a small flaw into a big deal.
The easiest way I have found to exit the cycle of overanalyzing and causing myself needless worry is to see the worry as a signal to make a decision. Ultimately, when you are worried about something, you have two choices: let it go or do something about it. Worrying is not helpful by itself; it is only useful when it prompts actions. I think this chart sums it up well:
So when I catch myself overanalyzing my husband’s flaws (or my relationship’s flaws), I ask myself, “Is this really a big deal?” If it isn’t, I let it go. If it is, I brainstorm ways to address it. Whatever the answer is, I am freed from my worry and overanalyzing. I can’t say I do this perfectly all the time, or even most of the time, but that’s what I try to do. If you haven’t tried this strategy, give it a whirl. It just might reduce your stress and worry, which is always a good thing.