One of the many things that I appreciated about my husband when I married him was that he really wasn’t into watching sports. I enjoy playing sports, but not watching them, so this trait was exciting for me. Unfortunately, my husband has recently developed a liking for watching football, and I must admit I’m not that excited about the change.
Football is one of my least favorite sports to watch. Unlike basketball or volleyball, which at least move quickly and have constant action, football games take forever, and very little of that time is spent in actually playing the game. I mean, think about it: most plays in football include 30 seconds or less of playing, followed by a long resetting period where the players move into position for the next play, congratulate or console each other, debate the calls with the ref, trade in new players, etc. It’s not exactly a fast-moving game.
Still, my husband has decided that he enjoys watching football, and I’ve decided to be supportive, even though he knows my views on the slow nature of football. Thanks to this week’s strategy, I’ve been reminded that a happy man means a happy partner, and that’s a good thing. Letting him watch football without making a fuss gives him a source of pleasure that costs me little and makes him happier. His football watching causes no problems for me except that the TV is occupied for several hours with something that I find uninteresting, which is a pretty mild problem considering he still does his part around the house at other times and often even takes the baby while he watches football so I can get other things done.
If something costs me little and gives him joy, why wouldn’t I encourage it? I may not enjoy it, but if it makes him happy, that’s good for him and for our relationship. Sometimes the sacrifices required to encourage your partner’s happiness are large, but other times they are surprisingly small.